Why I Walk – Paige Lanier Chargois

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My name is Paige Lanier Chargois and I Walk to End Alzheimer’s for my father, Earlie Hayes Lanier, a man I have revered for many years who succumbed to Alzheimer’s a couple of years ago. This year I will Walk for him!

Every child needs a parent to hold his or her hand to guide, secure, or protect them!

Throughout much of my childhood, I would walk with Dad to the big supermarket nine blocks away. Alone or allowing me to tag along, he always walked to the store, bought the groceries then caught the bus back home. When I would hear him announce that’s where he was heading, I’d holler out, “Dad, can I go?” Of course he would say yes, grab my hand and we would take off.

There’s a special memory about Dad within each of those steps – some of the best “daddy-daughter” conversations ever!

Most special would be the moment as we set out walking when he would grab my hand in his. The strength in his hands was amazing. Compared to my tiny hand as a little girl, his hands were so large. The confidence that hand allowed me – that nothing could “touch” me as long as my Dad was holding my hand! All was right in my world!

I remember the questions he would ask about school, about my playmates, about what I wanted to become. My responses are not all that important now, but I still relish the sense of strength and security I felt as long as Dad held my hand. I had no worry because I was walking with my Dad!

Fast-forward about 60 years as I began providing care for Dad who had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. He still loved to walk throughout the community, but would occasionally lose his way although we had lived in that house more than 20 years. That helped me decide to relocate.

The apartment to which we moved within a retirement community was a bit limiting for him and his love of walking. Some evenings I would take him into the long hallways of our building where we would set out walking. Although Dad did not need a walker or wheelchair, one particular evening he said to me, “I could walk better if you would hold my hand.”

I experienced a “nuclear melt-down” of memories covering hundreds of days he had held my hand when we walked together – including to the grocery store! The strength he had provided me over those years – just by holding my hand – became a power-surge of mega proportions! I slipped my hand around his hoping for and trusting in a similar surge of strength and confidence in Dad that he would then be able to walk a little better. And he did.

This year I will Walk to end Alzheimer’s and Dad won’t be holding my hand nor will I be holding his; but the strength remains because it is still very clear and very real that I will “walk a little better (as) he holds my hand!”

You can now register for the 2015 Walks to End Alzheimer’s!

Northern Neck – Middle Peninsula; Saturday, September 19th at Bethpage Camp Resort. Register and donate at bit.ly/NNMPWalkToEndALZ2015

Fredericksburg; Saturday, September 26th at University of Mary Washington. Register and donate at bit.ly/FredericksburgWalkToEndALZ2015

Richmond Walk to End Alzheimer’s; Saturday, November 7th at Innsbrook. Register and donate at bit.ly/RVAWalkToEndALZ2015

September 2015 Educational Programs – Middle Peninsula and Northern Neck

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Dementia: The Basics
September 3rd; 5:30-7pm
Alzheimer’s Association Office – DeHardit House
7335 Lewis Avenue
Gloucester, VA 23061

This session aims to provide family members and friends with information about Alzheimer’s and other types of dementia, as well as information about local resources and services. Please call 804-695-9382 for more information.

September 2015 Educational Programs – Richmond and Tri-Cities Area

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September 1st; 3:30-5pm
Conversations on Dementia
Spring Arbor of Salisbury
14001 Turnberry Lane
Midlothian, VA 23113

September 10th; 8:30am-2pm
Aging with Grace Conference: Equipping Churches for Senior Ministry in the Age of the Baby Boomer
Glen Allen Cultural Arts Center
2880 Mountain Road
Glen Allen, VA 23060
$15 Fee to Attend

September 12th; 10am-Noon
Conversations on Dementia
Chester United Methodist Church
12132 Percival Street
Chester, VA 23831

September 15th; 3:30-5pm
Effective Communications Strategies
Spring Arbor of Salisbury
14001 Turnberry Lane
Midlothian, VA 23113

September 15th; 6-7:30pm
Alzheimer’s and Dementia
Brookdale West End (Emeritus)
1800 Gaskins Road
Henrico, VA 23238

September 24th; 6-8pm
“Alive Inside: A Story of Music & Memory”
The Crossings at University Park
2422 Pemberton Road
Richmond, VA 23233
Please call 804-554-1555 to RSVP. Seating is limited.

September 29th; 10am-1pm
Living with Alzheimer’s for People Diagnosed or Experiencing the Symptoms of a Dementia Disease
Contact the Greater Richmond Chapter Office at 804-967-2580 for more information or to register.

September 29th; 3:30-5pm
Legal and Financial Planning
Spring Arbor of Salisbury
14001 Turnberry Lane
Midlothian, VA 23113

September 29th; 6-7:30pm
Effective Communication Strategies
Brookdale West End (Emeritus)
1800 Gaskins Road
Henrico, VA 23238

September 2015 Support Groups – Middle Peninsula and Northern Neck

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September 8th; 6pm
For Caregivers
The Orchard
62 Delfae Drive
Warsaw, VA 22572
Respite available with reservation.
Please call Carolyn Costello, 804-615-1117, for more information.

September 9th; 10:30am
For Caregivers
Alzheimer’s Association Office – DeHardit House
7335 Lewis Avenue
Gloucester, VA 23061
No respite available.
Please contact Ted Leonard, 804-642-9189, for more information.

September 14th; 11am
For Caregivers
Rappahannock Westminster-Canterbury
132 Lancaster Drive
Irvington, VA 22489
No respite available.
Please call Ellie Galloway, 804-695-9382, for more information.

September 15th; 10:30am
For Caregivers
Harmony Grove Baptist Church
7722 Gen. Puller Hwy
Topping, VA 23169
Respite available with reservation.
Please contact Barbara Swain, 804-832-1571, or Lisa Jones, 804-695-9008, for more information.

September 16th; 9am
Early Stage – For Persons with Dementia
Call the Alzheimer’s Association, 804-695-9382, for more information.

September 17th; 6pm
For Caregivers
Alzheimer’s Association Office – DeHardit House
7335 Lewis Avenue
Gloucester, VA 23061
No respite available.
Please contact Ellie Galloway, 804-695-9382, for more information.

September 22nd; 10am
Early Stage – For Persons with Dementia
Call the Alzheimer’s Association, 804-695-9382, for more information.

September 24th; 10:30am
For Caregivers
Commonwealth Assisted Living
460 S. Main Street
Kilmarnock, VA 22482
Respite care available with reservation.
Please contact Ellie Galloway, 804-695-9382, for more information.

September 24th; 3pm
For Caregivers
Commonwealth Assisted Living – Farnham
511 Cedar Grove
Farnham, VA 22460
Respite care available with reservation.
Please contact Jill White, 804-695-7290, for more information.

September 2015 Support Groups – Fredericksburg

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September 1st; 10am
For Caregivers
Spotsylvania Regional Medical Center
2nd Floor Conference Room
4600 Spotsylvania Avenue
Fredericksburg, VA 22408
Please contact Lori Myers, 540-370-0835, for more information.

September 14th; 6:30pm
For Caregivers and Persons with Dementia
Please call the Chapter Office, 540-370-0835, for more information.

September 15th; 1:30pm
For Caregivers
Homecare America
2017 Plank Road
Fredericksburg, VA 22401
Please contact Lori Myers, 540-370-0835, for more information.

September 15th; 7pm
For Caregivers
Carriage Hill Health & Rehabilitation Center
6106 Health Center Lane
Fredericksburg, VA 22407
Please contact Judy Scheibe, 540-898-1378, for more information.

September 2015 Support Groups – Richmond and Tri-Cities

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September 1st; 10:30am
For Caregivers
Second Branch Baptist Church
12217 Second Branch Road
Chesterfield, VA 23838
Please call Edith Byrnes, 804-271-4441, or Sharon Condrey, 804-590-9305, for more information.

September 1st; 3pm
For Caregivers
First Baptist Church
401 N. Second Avenue
Hopewell, VA 23860
Please call Blanche Castelow, 804-748-5585, or June Gilliam, 804-748-6668, for more information.

September 1st; 7pm
For Caregivers
First Baptist Church
800 Thompson Street
Ashland, VA 23005
Please call Bob Junod, 804-752-2219, for more information.

September 3rd; 6pm
For Caregivers
Good Shepherd Baptist Church
1127 N. 28th Street
Richmond, VA 23223
Please call Wanda Hunt, 804-305-8394, for more information.

September 8th; 7pm
For Adult Children
Bon Air Methodist Church
1645 Buford Road
N. Chesterfield, VA 23235
Please call Lynda Gormus, 804-320-0619, or Erin Davidson, 804-514-2142, for more information.

September 9th; 9:30am
For Caregivers
Hanover Adult Day Center
7231 Stonewall Parkway
Mechanicsville, VA 23111
Please call Vivian Bagby, 804-321-1649, or Barbara Allen, 804-782-1942, for more information.

September 9th; 10am
For Caregivers
New Life United Methodist Church
900 Old Hundred Road
Midlothian, VA 23114
Please call Bob Schaefer, 804-310-7991, or Leigh Hilldrup, 804-839-0236, for more information.

September 14th; 10am
For Caregivers
Mt. Vernon Baptist Church
11220 Nuckols Road, Glen Allen, VA 23059
Please call Jessica Samet, 804-967-2580, for more information.

September 15th; 10am
For Caregivers
Lakewood Manor
1900 Lauderdale Drive
Henrico, VA 23238
Please call Beth Meyers, 804-967-2598, for more information.

September 15th; 2pm
For Caregivers
Bon Air Methodist Church
1645 Buford Road
Family Life Center, Blanchette Brown Room
N. Chesterfield, VA 23235
Please call Nancy Lentz, 804-967-2586, for more information.

September 15th; 7pm
For Caregivers
Brandermill Woods Health Care Center
2100 Brandermill Parkway
Midlothian, VA 23112
Please call Merle Kahn, 804-967-2575, for more information.

September 17th; 7pm
For Caregivers
Lucy Corr Village
6800 Lucy Corr Court
Chesterfield, VA 23832
Please call Blanche Castelow, 804-748-5585, or Edith Byrnes, 804-271-4441, for more information.

September 22nd; 6pm
For Caregivers
St. Mary’s Hospital
5801 Bremo Road, Room 163
Richmond, VA 23226
Please call Mary Ann Johnson, 804-967-2582, for more information.

September 24th; 1pm
For Caregivers
Chickahominy YMCA
5401 Whiteside Road
Sandston, VA 23150
Please call Connie Tucker, 804-241-2056, or Beth Meyers, 804-967-2598, for more information.

September 24th, 1:30pm
Early Stage for Caregivers and Persons with Dementia
Please Call the Chapter Office, 804-967-2580, for more information.

September 26th; 12pm
For Caregivers
First Union Baptist Church
3510 Dill Road
Richmond, VA 23222
Please call Jacki Page, 804-321-2573, for more information.

Younger-Onset Group
This is a Support Group for individuals who were diagnosed with a dementia disease under the age of 65. For more information on this group, please contact the Alzheimer’s Association Greater Richmond Chapter office at 804-967-2580.